My Secret Mother

My Secret Mother

Two Different Lives, One Heartbreaking Secret A Memoir

Book - 2016
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Two separate lives, one heartbreaking secret

When Phyllis Whitsell was just eight months old, her mother died of tuberculosis. At least, that what's Phyllis grew up being told. But Phyllis never believed it was true. She prayed every night for God to take care of her birth mother, holding onto the hope that she was alive and out there, somewhere.

Finally, after years of searching, Phyllis finds her birth mother-Bridget, known locally as Tipperary Mary. But the loving reunion Phyllis had hoped for is complicated by a difficult past. The mother she discovers is a broken woman-a victim of early onset dementia, an alcoholic, and a woman crushed by years of missing the daughter she gave up.

Phyllis, by this time a community nurse with her own children, keeps the discovery from her family. She begins to care for Bridget-visiting her at home, buying her new clothes, tending to her maladies and giving her as much love as she can. All the while, Phyllis struggles with telling Bridget her true identity. And when she eventually introduces her son to his grandmother, Bridget doesn't believe her. Bridget never fully understands that her tender new caregiver is the daughter she lost so long ago.

My Secret Mother is the extraordinary story of forgiveness and compassion, as a daughter's search for her mother becomes a journey from abandonment into love.

Publisher: Toronto :, Collins,, 2016.
Copyright Date: ♭2015
ISBN: 9781443451253
Characteristics: xi, 274 pages, 8 pages of unnumbered plates, :,illustrations (some color), portraits (some color) ;,21 cm.
Additional Contributors: Fisher, Barbara - Author


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Aug 30, 2016

I really enjoyed this book and read it in two days. A good book for anyone who is adopted to read. Very sad at times but a book that you hate to put down.

Aug 05, 2016

A memoir that reads as if it hasn't been professionally edited. A bit depressing at the beginning, but the story picks up once she actually finds her mother. A brave woman though, who understandably still carries the scars of a challenging life.

May 19, 2016

Interesting story but I found that it was not very well written. There was a lot of repetition of words and the message that she was trying to convey. Seemed like this was written by a very amateur writer.

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